Wasted Time?

That guy from the OC Register should be caned, like in Singapore... OK, maybe just lose his job for terrible reporting.

I think what that writer assumed is a common misconception about the cougar/cub relationship. The fact is, I've been out with guys my own age and most of them are just looking for sex too, so I don't think its about the age at all...its the person or people involved. And yes, he should be caned or at least admonished for bad reporting. ;)

This is definitely a common misconception about men dating in general. When most young men decide to start dating older women it is usually due to the confidence of a cougar. She knows what she wants, and goes for it! At least, this is what attracted me from the get-go. I think this reporter is out of his element!

Unconventional Dating Relationships-- The day is here where the tables have turned on Dating. In the past, it was acceptable for older men to date younger women. Today, it is very acceptable for an older woman to date a younger man. A younger woman whom dates an older man is looking for security and a stable relationship. There is a new breed of men whom are seeking the same. I call these "very smart men!" Whose to say just because a woman is 20 yrs older than a man, that the man will eventually dump her? Sorry, men age much faster than women. I date a man 20 yrs younger than me. His being young has nothing to do why I date him. I date him because he is a great person, we always have fun together and we make eachother very happy. Because that is the "bottom line!" Men my age (in 40's) are, "set in their ways, jaded, have baggage, and have to pay child support." I am very young for my age and don't want to raise someone else's children. Also, older men do not have a Zest for life! With the Divorce rate at an all time high, what 60% for first Marriages, and 70% for second Marriages, obviously what we consider "Conventional" is not working. Why does society keep fulfilling the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result? Change!!! I have a great appreciation for my younger Mate, and vice versa! Maybe that is what is lacking in all these failing Marriages across our Country. Its time for a change! A healthy relationship that is alive! Age does not matter!!!

How can any relationship be classified as a waste of time if, no matter the duration, every aspect of being a couple is beneficial. I had an exciting, thrilling and very rewarding five year relationship with a much younger man after suffering two boring marriages with older men. Most of my friends are either married, dating or otherwise involved with younger men. If the agenda is sex... so be it! No one, unless they are delusional, expects to form a relationship with every person she/he meets especially via online dating. Personally, I feel the woman was either delusional, completely naive or an idiot. I wager she missed out on an exceptionally rewarding opportunity to experience all the attributes of that Cub!! If one is fortuitous in making a connection, regardless of age, then one should embrace the experience and let the chips fall where they may. How sad to have such a closed mind and to have, perhaps, missed a fabulous opportunity to broaden her horizons and her mind. How unprofessional of the obtuse reporter to not seek additional opinions and or do more research on the subject,as well.