Melissa: Urbancougar of the Month, October 2005

Update: After her stint as Urbancougar of the Month, the lovely Melissa found herself representing urbancougar.com and proud cougars everywhere on The Tyra Banks Show!


"Being a cougar gives me a certain enrichment due to the feeling of being in control, having the attention of younger men and knowing that the men hang on every word your saying because they are interested, don't play games and are sincere about their intentions! I find that older men want to play games; constantly look over their shoulder for the ‘bigger, better’ thing to walk in and don't have the ability to be honest about their true feelings. They would rather control the woman than be a partner. Younger men have the ability to show their true feelings and want to take care of a woman's needs. I love their affections and have found they are definitely better in bed!!!!!!!!!!!"


Yes, she used that many exclamation points.


Why we love her
Well, if for some reason our eyes were gouged out in some unexpected attack by a passing falcon and we were rendered blind, we’d still be smitten with Melissa. Rarely have we met a woman who so embodied the urbancougar ideal. Melissa is a hard-charging entrepreneur who has not only maintained an active acting and modeling career, but also sells real estate (and at pretty good clip to drooling admirers, we’re sure) and markets her Speed Diva clothing line for female NASCAR fans. Melissa also contends that she is "a very sentimental person with a big heart that truly cares about other's feelings. I am not about playing games and deceit. I am about truth, honesty and being real!" After her gushing sincerity in our Q&A with her, we’re inclined to agree. Besides, a falcon hasn’t ripped our eyes out, so we can’t help but notice she’s smokin’—we mean, SMOKIN’—hot!

Melissa seems perfect in every conceivable way, no? Well, there’s a catch. Unfortunately, Cougar Hunters, this feral cat appears to have been tamed. But all hope is not lost... She’s got friends.


Q&A

Please tell us the first experience that made you go urbancougar?
It was an on and off thing. I would go out with younger men and played around, but I had always been in relationships with older men until recently, when I met the most incredible man—who is younger than me. I never thought I would meet someone, especially someone younger, that would have the ability to understand my needs, desires and wants the way he has. He has touched my heart in so many ways that I couldn't possibly put it all into words. For the first time, I can honestly say, "I'm in love!!!" This is huge for me, as I don't allow anyone to ever get that close to my heart and I have never, ever, ever been in love before. He has taught me how to love and allow myself to be loved. I smile all the time whether he's with me in person, talking on the telephone or I'm just thinking about him. I have never felt so loved, needed or important as he makes me feel. As far as I am concerned, I have been swept off my feet and this man has taken control. There is no comparison of past relationships with an older man to the one I have now. I don't believe an older man could possess such sincerity, loyalty and devotion as this man has. I have found that the older men have been jaded and become callous to feelings of the heart. Whereas the younger men still have the ability to feel with their hearts and transfer that into their touch. What a touch—it is too!!!! Honestly, I had always felt that a younger man wouldn't be experienced enough sexually to completely satisfy a woman with my desires, but much to my surprise, he has not only satisfied, but keeps me coming back for more, more, more......after this man, I will never look any further, as I have finally found my knight in shining armor that I want to spend the rest of my life with!!

How we met...

We actually met through my best friend, Kari. She and I were working in Las Vegas for "Trashy Lingerie" at The Palms for the weekend. Unfortunately, that Friday when we were supposed to go over together, I got booked on a commercial shooting in Los Angeles, so she had to go over and work that Friday without me. That night, she was at one of the parties and met these two guys (my guy, Michael and his cousin Robert). They all ended up hanging out that night. The next morning, I flew in and was introduced to Michael by Kari. She and Robert hung out and Michael and I sat together while I gambled (one of the things I love doing besides watching football!!!!). Kari and I had a promotion for "Trashy" at the poolside, Michael and Robert came over and we all sat together. Talked about four hours that afternoon before parting We didn't see one another that night, because of my working and he was meeting up with family that lived in Las Vegas. That Sunday morning, I called Robert and he handed the telephone to Michael. We exchanged numbers and then stayed in touch over the telephone (he lives in New York). From there, it was all she wrote. We talked for hours at night on the telephone. Found that we immediately clicked and a month later I was on a plane to New York.....I’ve never been the same since our first meeting! Things are going great and have plans to spend the rest of our lives together....I've finally met the man of my dreams!

Do you have any special tactics when hunting your prey?
Not anything out of the ordinary. I usually just sit back and watch the room to see if there's anyone I'm interested in. When I see him, I watch his every move without him even knowing. (this is when I get to see the "real" person come out.) If I like what I see, I'll make sure to get his attention in some inconspicuous way. Always a lady in public....the rest you guys can fill in! If he possesses the qualities I like, then we'll see what happens from there. If not, it's off to hunt again. He has to keep my attention and stimulate me mentally, as well as, physically. If he ever bores me, I'm gone...no second chances here! So, I try to find someone that seems interesting, fun and ready to explore life and when I do...he's down for the count! I love the chase; it's like a kitty playing with a mouse. You like to toss it back and forth, play with it,

What do your girlfriends think about your urbancougar ways?
My best friend is the one who turned me on to younger men! She's always had a thrill in playing the "hunt, catch and release game!" All of my other girlfriends are dating younger men also. So to answer this question......."My girlfriends have no problems, because they are doing the same!”

Do you have any words of encouragement for your fellow cougars out there?
If you want something badly enough, don't let anyone or anything stand in your way...go get him! It's up to you and you only to find whatever it is your looking for! I'm having the time of my life. Why shouldn't everyone!

 


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